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Dating Quizzes

What Dating Type Are You?

(the 15 P's)

To find out what type you are, answer these questions.
If you get 3 or more YES's, read the description at the bottom
to learn about your dating type.

 
Quiz Questions

 
Perfectionist: 

1. Do you usually find something wrong with your dates?
   Y     N
2. Do you focus on faults more than their good points?
   Y     N
3. Does everyone you meet seem 'not good enough?'
   Y     N
4. Do you spend a lot of time in regret?
   Y     N
5. Do you think you will find the perfect mate?
   Y     N

Passive-Aggressive:
 

1. Is it hard for you to confront your dates?
   Y     N
   
   
2.  Do you make dates break it up, so you don't have to?
   Y     N
3. Do you create problems to distance yourself?
   Y     N
4. Do you have a hard time saying what makes you angry?
   Y     N
5.  Are you a big avoider of things?
   Y     N

Parachuter:
 

1. Do you leap before looking?
   Y     N 
2. Do you take enough time getting to know someone?
   Y     N
3. Do you take a lot of risks without using your head?
   Y     N
4. Do you assume rather than experience?
   Y     N
5. Do you avoid relationships that seem normal?
   Y     N

Pleaser:
 

1. Is your focus on if a person likes you, instead of the reverse?
   Y     N
2. Do you adjust yourself to meet your partner's desires?
   Y     N
3. Are you unlikely to assert your needs in a relationship?
   Y     N
4. Do you feel you have to be 'your best' to be liked?
   Y     N
5. Do you feel that if you disagree your date might leave you?
   Y     N

Player: 
 

1. Do you go from one partner to another?
   Y    N
2. Do you get a rush from the # of conquests you have?
   Y    N
3. Do you feel better with more partners?
   Y    N
4. Do you have a hard time committing to one person? Y    N
5. Do you feel more powerful in pursuit of a relationship,  than
   in one?
   Y    N

Pessimist:

1. Do you think every relationship will fail?
   Y     N
2. Do you dread dating?
   Y     N
3. Do you think about being hurt more then happy?
   Y     N
4. Do you feel your romantic life is earmarked for despair?
   Y     N
5. Are you afraid to try in dating?
   Y     N

Partnered:  

1. Are you always in a long-term relationship?
   Y     N
2. Do you feel uncomfortable without a girl/boyfriend?
   Y     N
3. Do you avoid being single?
   Y     N
4. Do you avoid dating a number of people for awhile?
   Y     N
5. Is being in a relationship more important,  than the partner
   you choose?
   Y     N  

 
Prince(ss):  

1. Do you expect all your dates to follow your agenda?
     Y     N
2. Do you have very specific expectations of other people?
   Y     N
3. Do people tell you that you are high maintenance?
   Y     N
4. Do you eliminate people because they differ from you?
   Y     N
5. Do you require a lot of care and attention to be happy?
   Y     N

Parasite:
 

1. Are you very needy & dependant in your relationships?
   Y     N
2. Do you require your partner to see you every day?
   Y     N 
3. Do you feel insecure when your partner is not there?
   Y     N
4. Do you expect the other person to make you happy?
   Y     N
5. Do you feel something is wrong when you need time for
   your own lives?
   Y     N  

Proud:
 

1. Are you in your head more than your feelings?
     Y     N
2. Do you dislike being vulnerable?
   Y     N
3. Do you appear like you don't care much on your dates?
     Y     N
4. Do you find it challenging to express your feelings?
   Y     N
5. Do people describe you as cold or stuck up?
   Y     N

Partier:

1. Do you only stay in fun relationships?
   Y     N
2. Do you run at the first sign of attachment or problems?
   Y     N
3. Do you avoid pain in your life?
   Y     N
4. Do you have trouble being serious?
   Y     N
5. Do people tell you it is time to grow up?
   Y     N

Pushy:

1. Do you like to be in control of your relationship?
   Y     N
2. Do you like to make all the choices and decisions?
   Y     N
3. Do you apply pressure so the other person conforms to your expectations?
   Y     N

4. Do you get angry when your partner chooses differently?
   Y     N
5. Do you think that you know better than the other person?
   Y     N

Philanthropist:  

1. Are most of your partner's 'projects' to save?
   Y     N
2. Do you spend a lot of time improving their situation?
   Y     N
3. Does being a caretaker make you feel like a hero?
   Y     N
4. Do you feel sorry for people who struggle & seem helpless?
   Y     N
5. Have none of your dates been happy, self-sufficient people?
   Y     N

Poet:  

1. Do you romance whomever you meet?
   Y     N
2. Are you thinking about marriage after the first date?
   Y     N
3. Do you put your date on a pedestal before you know them?
   Y     N
4. Are you more in love 'with love' than the other person?
   Y     N
5. Do you scare the other person away with grand gestures?
   Y     N

 
Procrastinator: 

1. Do you leave things to the last minute?
     Y     N
2. Do you avoid things that scare you?
   Y     N
3. Do you say you are going to do something, but your actions don't match your words?
   Y    N
4. Do you miss opportunities by over-analyzing?
   Y    N
5. Are you afraid to make choices?
   Y    N

 Interpretation of Results:

 Perfectionist: No one is good enough for me - Often perfectionists feel they are waiting for something better, so they don't appreciate what they have.  It is good to better yourself, but if this is your road block to love, you could be passing up a lot of good-enough people in hopes of attaining a fantasy that does not exist.

DO: Ask friends, journal about this pattern, learn more about it.

Passive-Aggressive: I make them act on my feelings - If you are someone who does not own and directly express your feelings, it could destroy your relationships.  If you learn to say what disappoints you directly, perhaps you could work on it in your relationship, instead of pushing your partner away.

DO: Identify & express anger directly, communicate instead of act out your feelings.

Parachuter: I don't look before I leap - If you take risks in relationships, that's good. but, it is also important to think things through before making big decisions.  It may benefit you to know someone over time before committing.

DO: Take your time, ask friends for their perspective, examine pros & cons of all choices.

Pleaser: It's all about them - It's good to think about the other person, but not to the exclusion of your self.  It is important to know who you are and what you want in a relationship.  If you only worry about whether your partner likes you, one day you may wake up and realize that you don't really like them, or the person you've become with them.

DO:  Examine whether your choice is a 'should' or a 'want to,' journal about what you want and express it more in your relationships.

Player:  I can't commit to just one -  If you sample the whole world, you still may not commit to one person.  What is this fear of having a real relationship about?  Ask yourself why you need so much approval to feel wanted. 

DO: Think about the lack of intimacy in your relationships, try dating one person at a time for 6 months, notice what fears and feelings arise & don't run from them.

Pessimist: This'll never work. so why try?  We have all been burned, yet most of us continue to hold out hope.  Why have you decided that no relationship will work for you?  You need to reclaim the positive aspects of relationships that you are not seeing.

DO: Look for the good in all dates and situations, keep a list of three daily successes, catch yourself when you resort to negative thinking.

Partnered: I always have a partner.  We learn from being in long-term relationships, but we also learn from dating, and being alone.  If your pattern is to go from one long-term relationship to another, you can ask yourself what it to be like to live an un-partnered life.  What might you learn about who you are and what you want?

DO: Consider whether you want a relationship more then you want your partner, rediscover your relationship to yourself.

Prince(ss): It's all about me.  It is good to know who you are and what you want, but in a relationship, it is about both people.  When is the last time you put your needs aside to think about the other person?

DO: Stop to ask what the other person wants; consider compromising your desires sometimes- in the spirit of mutuality.

Parasite: I am always needy and dependent.  It is good to ask for help, but it is also important to stand on your own two feet.  Healthy relationships consist of two strong people who take care of themselves and choose to give to the relationship as well.  

DO: Learn to fulfill your own needs; practice taking & giving space; identify your fear of being left and where it originated.

Proud: I appear cold and independent. It is great to be independent but daters want to feel liked.  Your prospective partner wants to know that you care about them and that what they offer is of value to you.  Sometimes this gets lost in your communication.

DO: Practice expressing feelings and appreciation; practice being vulnerable in your relationships.

Partier: My relationships must stay fun!  It is great when life is fun, but most of us know life also involves commitment and work.  Unless you recognize this, you may never participate in a meaningful, mature long-term relationship.

DO: Notice your fear when a relationship suddenly requires something from you emotionally.  Instead of running, try to stand and face the issue and work it through.  Notice what happens if you do.  What did you learn?

Pushy: I must be in control.  It is good to shape your destiny in life but you must give people respect to make their own choices too.  Don't let your need to control destroy the mutuality and surprise in your relationships.

DO: Notice your fear at letting go, take a deep breath and let your partner choose for once.  Notice what happens and journal about what you learned.

Philanthropist: I find "projects" to save.  You love to help people and you feel best being a savior.  The problem is, most people change when they want to and the hard work must come from them!  Ask yourself why you don't pick someone whose life is already the way you want it to be?

DO: Notice if you are trying to change someone & refocus that energy on you and how to better your own life.

Poet: I am in love with love, not you.  It is great to love romance but it is important to really get to know someone over time.  Put aside the grand gestures and really listen to your partner.  Observe their daily behavior.  This type of love can be even more personal, grounded and profound.

DO:  Make your gestures about them, not love in general; love them as a whole person-good and challenging.

Procrastinator: Why do today, what I can do tomorrow?  We are constantly getting opportunities in life.  Fear can stop you from making choices that could serve you NOW.  Don't let the love of your life pass you by because you are too busy avoiding taking responsibility.  Take a deep breath and take an action step today.

DO:  talk back to the fear and don't let it own you; take a baby step towards your goal today and then celebrate that victory.

 

To learn more about your dating types and obstacles, take a class at 'My Dating School' or sign up for a one-on-one dating coach to explore these issues and how to address them.  Dating coaching is done by phone and is available internationally.  Contact us at  www.mydatingschool.com

* This quiz was written by Dr. Paulette Sherman, Director & Founder of 'My Dating School.'  Material cannot be sold, duplicated, or transferred, without her written consent.