for Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman & “Dating From the Inside Out”:
Reviews for 'Dating From the Inside Out'
FEBRUARY 2008 BOOKPAGE = www.bookpage.com 20
Looking for love?
New books uncover the secrets of romance
By Katherine Wyrick
Love is in the air—and on the page—at this time of year. Whether you’re searching for that soul mate or you’ve already found one, we’ve got a book for
you. Paulette Kouffman Sherman is a dating expert and psychologist with a holistic approach to finding a mate. In her practice, she noticed that her clients’
negative thoughts were actually driving away the partners they desired. Therein
lies the genesis of Dating from the Inside Out: How to Use the Law of Attraction
in Matters of the Heart (Atria, $14.95,192 pages, ISBN 9781582701943). In this
with “setting clear intentions for love, and learning to be the partner they wish
to attract.” It’s no secret,
Meaning, know thyself and love thyself before you ask someone else’s self to
do the same. Anyone who’s heard of that not-so-secret book the Secret will find themselves on familiar terrain here.
"Dating From the Inside Out is a rare combination of sophisticated psychology, humanistic spirituality, and practical instruction for those seeking fulfillment in partnership. The wonderful surprise about Dr. Sherman's book is that it's not just for singles! It is equally a welcome refresher course for those looking to reinvigorate their relationships by creating new communication patterns that support loving and healthful interactions."—
Dr. Faith Bethelard, coauthor of Cherishment: A Psychology of the Heart
"In a world immersed in match.com, J-Date, and a host of other attempts at liaisons, Dr. Paulette Sherman brings us a book which addresses intimacy and passion, as well as self-knowledge. It's a wonderful resource for therapists who continue to meet clients with a genuine desire for relationships with a future. Our writer is a woman of integrity and insight. Her words are those of a mature writer; her spirit of enthusiasm and hope not just enlighten, but envision a better future for the reader. This writer and her fine book have my enthusiastic endorsement."—
Bruce Lackie, Ph.D., Director of The
"Dr. Sherman has produced an extremely well written, lucid manual that really goes beyond dating, to living in general. Using her own experiences and those of her clients, she has produced a roadmap that is easy to follow and which, if followed, should lead to a great deal of satisfaction in finding people with whom to be happy. She has translated important concepts from her experience as a therapist and as a dating coach into everyday language that is easy to understand."—
Dr. Robert Myers, ABPP, psychologist and professor of psychology at the
"This book distills the wisdom of a hundred years of psychology to its most essential and practical basics: Understand your past to better control your dating future. Its techniques are clear, sensible, and revealing." –
Barry J. Jacobs, Psy.D., author of The Emotional Survival Guide for Caregivers
“Dating From the Inside Out” is insightful, focused, personal and enlightening. Best described, this primer on self-awareness is a starting point in a journey of a lifetime. Through inspirational activities and creative strategies Dr. Sherman skillfully leads the reader into a journey of self-exploration. “Dating From the Inside Out’” sends the compelling message you must first be happy with who YOU are before You can share your heart.”-
Tara Saltzman, PH.D., Executive Dean of Strategic Initiatives & Global
“Used in conjunction with traditional psychotherapy, Dr. Sherman’s book provides a useful tool for those ready to embrace a satisfying and lasting relationship. A creative approach to dating that’s definitely worth a look.”-
Mona Daniels, Psychoanalytic Psychotherapist
“Dr. Sherman’s dating approach takes you into your heart so you can love more fully and attract the mate of your dreams.”-
Cindy Ross, single
Each of us deserves to love and be loved in return. How can you find real, deep, and lasting love in a world that appears so superficial? Rather than looking at the world of dating like an obstacle course to be conquered, Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman shows that it can become an enlightening journey toward love that begins from within. By examining past experiences, understanding family dynamics, and exploring the place of spiritual connection in the dating world, Dr. Sherman illuminates the path to self-awareness -- the path that leads to the kind of real love you have been searching for. Finding your dating style and the set of beliefs you hold about your self-worth liberates you from just spinning your wheels and repeating mistakes. Dr. Sherman shows how we can become the partner we wish to attract, and asserts that anyone can learn how to truly let go of their past, embrace the present, and use the Law of Attraction to draw in a partner who is perfect for who you are -- without pretending to be someone you're not.
The Goddess Network newsletter, by Charlene Procter- book review and link to my book on amazon.com.
(excerpt from Publishers Weekly)
Live Long and Prosper
Where are abundance books headed in the post-Secret era?
by Lauren F. Winner -- Publishers Weekly, 8/13/2007
Suggest prosperity to yourself. See yourself in a prosperous condition. Affirm that you will before long be in a prosperous condition. Affirm it calmly and quietly, but strongly and confidently.... Expect it—keep it continually watered with expectation. You thus make yourself a magnet to attract the things that you desire."
That paragraph is not an excerpt from Rhonda Byrne's blockbuster The Secret. It's a snippet from Ralph Waldo Trine's In Tune with the Infinite: Or, Fullness of Peace, Power, and Plenty, which was published in 1897.
Books yoking spiritual concerns to the pursuit of prosperity are nothing new. As Joel Fotinos, v-p and publisher of Penguin/Tarcher, notes, "People are perennially interested in how they can be both spiritual and prosperous." But every few years a book comes along that recalibrates things for publishers interested in spirituality and prosperity. (Remember The Prayer of Jabez ?) Today's book, undeniably, is The Secret. What can we expect from the spiritual prosperity genre in the post-Secret era?
Cynthia Black, president and editor-in-chief of Beyond Words Publishing, who acquired the book, says that readers are inspired by The Secret in part because Byrne "presented things in an emotional way that touched people's hearts. But now people are looking for more concrete ways" to apply the secrets of The Secret, so Black is bringing out books with a more practical edge: Dating from the Inside Out: How to Use the Laws of Attraction in Matters of the Heart by Paulette Sherman (Feb. 2008) teaches romantic readers how to attract a different kind of person, and True Self True Wealth: A Pathway to Prosperity by Peter Hays Cole and Daisy Reese (Oct.) helps readers identify the financial messages they inherited from their family, and get their financial house in order. Jill Kramer, editorial director of Hay House—which publishes Esther and Jerry Hicks's popular books, including the forthcoming Money and the Law of Attraction (Mar. 2008)—says that people have flocked to The Secret in part because of its simplicity: "People want books that offer them something they can do very simply. This is something you can do in your own mind. You don't have to go anywhere or attend a seminar."
Speaking Testimonials for Dr. Sherman
“This class was a great opportunity. I believe it needed more than 3 hours because there was so much to discuss. It was good that the Instructor allowed the students to ask questions at any time during her lecture. Dr. Sherman was very engaging and good at what she does. She was GREAT!! It was a very informative and entertaining class. She was dynamic, fun, knowledgeable- and the class was a real success!”
“It was very good and I was pleasantly surprised I enjoyed it.”
“The presentation was informative and helpful. The presenter allowed others to interact and share ideas.”
“Great! Thanks! Very informative, to the point and concise!”
“Very good. Well organized. Covered a lot of ground. Loved her ‘dating types- very clever!”
“Wonderful, fun and fact-filled. She addressed, ‘Dating from the Inside-Out’ at a very comfortable level.”
“Good information presented clearly and good examples, which is key.”
Speaker Bureau’s Comments:
‘It can be hard to keep a positive frame of mind when you’re looking for Mr. or Miss Right. That’s why I’m bringing dating expert and author Dr. Paulette Sherman to the Learning Annex. Join Dr. Sherman as she teaches an inside-out approach to dating that will help you grow as a person and pick the partner who is right for you. This woman really knows what she is talking about…so what do you have to lose? If this course isn’t everything I promised, we’ll credit your Learning Annex account by the full amount you paid. You’ll thank me when you find The One!”
-William Zanker, Founder & President, The Learning Annex
It’s tough to meet someone in
Television & Film
Guest on KATU’s AM North West Morning Show on 3/27/08. Interviewed as a dating expert about my book. My AM NorthWest video reel can be viewed at:
The CBS Early Morning Show on May 23, 2008 at 9:30 AM. Segment on me and my dating school called, ‘Dating School 101: Dating School Teaches Singles How to Go About It’ My CBS Early Show tape can be viewed at:
Produced & Directed a documentary, “Big Apple Beliefs” on how the beliefs of New Yorkers can cause separation and fear versus love and unity. Shown at Millenium Film in NYC. Tape available upon request.
Straight Up!’- Dating Expert interviewed by Stella Winston for 30 minutes on Channel 67. Tape available.
‘Family Confidential’ TV pilot made with Adrienne Berg with television producer Richard Hall. I was on a panel of experts and gave advice as a dating coach. DVD of pilot available.
. ‘Entitled: The Fight of a Lifetime’ I was interviewed recently as a dating coach by Monika Rose about how overweight singles can enter the dating scene to find a mate. This was for her documentary scheduled for theatrical release in a year. Website is: www.fatchickfilms.com
More.com- 'Dateless in December.' Quoted as a dating expert
Charlotte Observer- 'Mourning Mom tries Blog Therapy.' Quoted as an expert.
Linux Insider, 'Online Suicide Watchers: Connected but Detatched' by Erika Morphy. Quoted as an expert.
Times Union-'Best Gift You Can Give This Year May Be Having A Talk About Spending.' Quoted as an expert.
iparenting.com- 'Holiday Preconception Prep' by Kim Seidel. Quoted as an expert.
DelawareOnline.com- 'Giving Thanks' by Gary Soulsman. Quoted as an expert.
NY Daily News- 'UnHappy People Watch More TV' by Rosemary Black. Thursday Nov, 20, 2008. Was quoted as an expert.
Seventeen magazine, ‘
CBS News website –“Ten Dating Tips” by Dr. Paulette Sherman. Found at: http://www.cbsnews.com/htdocs/pdf/052208_dating_tips.pdf
CBS News- website, ‘
www.MSN.match.com/msn/print.aspx?articleid=8996 –MSN.com article, “Dating Outside Your Faith” by Margot Lester. Quoted as a dating expert.
msn.match.com: ‘Wear Your Faith on Your Sleeve’ by Margot Carmichael Lester. Interviewed as a dating expert. See link at: http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=9462&menuid=8&lid=419
Glamour Magazine- ‘$9050 Worth of Love Advice-For Free!’ quoted in an article on dating coaching by Abby Ellin in their May issue. The article was both online on their website and in the magazine. See link at: http://www.glamour.com/sexmen/articles/2008/04/love_advice
MSN.com- article, ‘Dating Challenges for the Suddenly Single” by Nina Malkin. Quoted as a dating expert.
Lifetime.com- article, “Dating with Breast Cancer”-by Lisa Daily. Quoted as dating expert in October article. See link: http://community.comcast.net/comcastportal/board/message?board.id=breastcancerhope&message.id=15
Publishers Weekly article, ‘Live Long & Prosper.' Discusses my book.
Foxnews.com- article, ‘Relationships and Valentines Day” by Maria Esposito. Out on 2/4/08-quoted as dating expert in their Health section. http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,330483,00.html l
MSN.com ‘Post Divorce Milestones’ by Nina Malkin. Interviewed and quoted as a dating expert. See link at: http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=9500&menuid=7&lid=419
USAweekend.com & 500 newspapers- ‘5 Things to Know about Success with Online Dating” by Kelly Dinardo. Quoted as a dating expert. Feb 1, 2008 . http://www.usaweekend.com/08_issues/080203/0802035things-dating.html
www.divorce360.com- article by Mandy Vemulapalli, “Coping: Thinking of Yourself as Newly Single Can Help You Cope with Divorce” –quoted as dating expert. See link at: http://www.divorce360.com/articles/492/think-positive-on-valentines.aspx
Adventura Magazine- article, ‘Sex Appeal: the Game of Love’ by John Buchanan. Quoted as a dating expert.
College Times-article, ‘Changing Roles in Dating and Relationships?’ by Mike Meyer. Quoted as dating expert.
Complete Woman- article, ‘Signs that Your Summer Fling is a Keeper’ by Tracey Porpora. Quoted as dating expert in July 2008 issue.
Complete Woman- article, ‘His 10 Mixed Signals & What They Really Mean.’ By Erin Brereton in the October/November issue. Interviewed as one of two dating experts for a 3 page article.